How You Could Be in Self-Sabotage Due to Past Trauma and a Protective Nervous System
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by Evelyn
1M ago
Self-sabotage happens when you are in your own way of your overall happiness and success. You are either doing or not doing something that blocks achieving your goals. For example, despite wanting to have a loving relationship with your partner, you undertake actions that block connection or intimacy.  So here’s what I discovered about how we could be sabotaging our present due to the past… Even though the past traumatic experience is now over, our nervous system continues to use the encoded information that is from the distressing memory to disrupt us today.  Let me attempt to e ..read more
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How Your Nervous System Impacts Goal Setting and Your Ability to Hit Higher Targets
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by Evelyn
1M ago
You are all ready to start the new year with a new set of goals.  Perhaps you are thinking that this year is going to be different.  It will be the year where you manage to break new ground, step up or scale your business.  You are more determined than ever to meet your goals.  Well, to increase your chances of success, an understanding about your nervous system is going to help. In fact, if you have not made much headway in previous years, this could be the ONE thing that you are missing in that explains your lack of success.  It’s not just about your mindset.  O ..read more
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How to Harness the Power of the Mind for Manifesting Success
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by Evelyn
3M ago
We may have come across the idea about harnessing the power of the mind. Yet, not many of us utilise it fully for manifesting what we want. More often than not, we use the mind for cognitive tasks like problem-solving and decision-making, relegating its extraordinary potential to the background. It’s important to recognise that we are constantly in the process of manifesting. Our thoughts play a significant role in shaping the world we live in. If we focus our mind on negative thoughts, it is more likely that we bring about a negative outcome. On the contrary, if we think more positively about ..read more
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How Trauma is Not Just in Your Head or Mind
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by Evelyn
4M ago
What I found out about trauma is this: Trauma isn’t something that is just in your head or mind. It’s not just a past memory. In fact, it is stored in the habitual reflexive state of your nervous system. It is in your heart, head, your stomach, arms, legs..all the sensory information that got coded. They manifest in an overreactive response to stress today: racing heart, shallow breathing, nausea, indigestion, trembling hands, blurred vision, etc. For trauma recovery, it helps to remember: not just your head or mind, every part of your body was there in the past. Why Knowing Th ..read more
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What Are Glimmers and How You Can Find Them
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by Evelyn
4M ago
Glimmers are the opposite of triggers. Glimmers are moments that act as cues for self-regulation and for soothing our nervous system. They are tiny moments where we feel relaxed, safe, assured and connected. In contrast triggers cause us to feel threatened. When we are triggered badly, our fight-flight-freeze response can get excessively activated and our nervous system becomes deregulated.  The concept of glimmers first came from Polyvagal theory.  The theory was introduced by Stephen Porges in 1995 where we learn about how our autonomic nervous system is constantly on the lookout f ..read more
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Stop Shaming Your Body For Gaining Self-Acceptance
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by Evelyn
5M ago
If you are in the habit of shaming your own body, stop. Shaming your own body because of your physical imperfections can cause you to feel lousy about yourself. Perhaps you don’t like the way your nose looks, the slant of your eyes, the shape of your face, your freckles, boob size, etc…and the list goes on.  While it may be true that they are not perfect according to some beauty standards, shaming yourself over them is not going to be helpful for your confidence. Well, it took me a long time to embrace my imperfections, including physical flaws. In the past, I would be extremely self-c ..read more
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What Are The Emotions Connected to The Digestive System
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by Evelyn
6M ago
The digestive system is often linked to emotional stress. When you are stressed, the disruptions affect your gut. You can get anything from nausea, heartburn, constipation or irritable bowel syndrome.  I’d like to share a client case that I have worked on about how emotions are connected to the digestive system.  Valarie (not her real name) had been experiencing stomach and digestive issues for years. Even though she had seen doctors, taken medication and changed her diet, her symptoms still remained. From feeling depleted, Valerie was aware that her energy system needed some rebal ..read more
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Self-Love Practice eBook is Now Live
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by Evelyn
7M ago
I’m happy to announce that my new ebook, Self-Love Practice, is finally “live” on Amazon…yayyyy!!  As I figure, it is time for an update with new insights and client stories. Although it has been at least 9 years ago since I published my first book on self-love, I’ve been suspecting that there is still a lot of people out there with no or little clue on what it means to love themselves. Much of my suspicion arose from my sessions with clients. They could have presented a problem in say, performance anxiety, relationship conflicts or having imposter syndrome. Regardless of the presenting p ..read more
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How to Practice Loving Self-Acceptance
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by Evelyn
8M ago
Practising loving self-acceptance is not something that may come naturally. In fact, it could be a key life lesson that some of us. You may find yourself attracting various experiences that involve this important aspect of what it means to embrace yourself totally. Many of us long to be accepted for who we are. And so, we go about seeking validation and approval from others. However, the crux is that if we cannot accept ourselves, we cannot expect others to accept us too. Without any self-acceptance, we live in constant fear of being rejected. “A man cannot be comfortable without his own appr ..read more
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How to Reduce Relationship Conflicts: Make Observations, Not Evaluations
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by Evelyn
9M ago
“Observations are the windows to empathy, while evaluations are the doors to conflict.” Marshall Rosenberg Are you tired of encountering misunderstandings and conflicts in your conversations? Well, a good book to read is this: Nonviolent Communication (NVC) by Marshall Rosenberg. The author offers a ton of valuable tips for us. One such tip: separate observations from evaluation.  Observations focus on factual information without judgment, while evaluations involve personal interpretations and assessments. Separating observations from evaluations is something that I have to learn myse ..read more
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