You may be wondering about how you can connect with your inner child. For a start, you may even have some doubts about the idea of having a wounded inner child. After all, it is not like the inner child is a being that you can actually see or hear externally. Let alone one that is wounded. How, then, do you connect with your inner child, if you are interested to heal aspects about your childhood?  Well….it is true that you can’t actually see your inner child with your naked eye. It may even feel like you are playing pretend when you close your eyes and attempt to see your inner child. Yet ..read more

A money date is one where you are working on your finances; whether on your own, with your partner or team. It is one where you specify a day and time on your calendar for a money-related activity that is meant to help you consolidate, improve and/or strengthen your personal or joint financial position. It may be that you need to work on budgeting,  creating a spreadsheet to monitor expenses,  discussing with your partner on financial options,  reviewing your earnings,  finding better ways to minimise tax,  paying down your loans, moving of investment funds between ac ..read more

I have had the privilege of working with women who have realised that much of their financial stress and sense of lack stemmed from childhood. For a long time, they carried an emotional money wound. While they tried to put their pain aside, they found out that their wounds continued to bleed; such that there was an adverse impact on their financial well-being. These women had tried to “will” their stress away but met with limited success; that is, until we started to work together. Well, I would like to share the stories of how each of them worked on healing their money patterns. To protect t ..read more

When it comes to healing money wounds, there are two important considerations: 1. Healing needs to involve the emotional layer. 2. Healing of money wounds is best resolved at root cause. Let me explain more. 1. Healing Emotionally The money behaviour or situation that you are in is influenced by what’s going on internally – your thoughts and feelings. For some people, any talk about money tends to conjure plenty of negative feelings. Feelings such as worry, frustration, sadness, anger and so on. However, when emotions run high, they create a block or disrupt our energy system. Our clarity and ..read more

You may get all fiery, red and hot when feeling angry. It may also be that you lash out at others when you start to feel mad. However, anger may not just be about getting triggered and exploding in an outward behaviour. While you may feel justified about feeling angry, excessive anger can create an impact on your health and also hurt your relationships.  Hence, to alleviate intense emotional levels such as anger, an inner deep dive is warranted.  In fact, if you choose to investigate, you may just find out that there are deeper “onion” layers (emotionally and cognitively). Refe ..read more

Most of us have heard about the fight, flight and flee response to stress. But what about the fawn response? Well, let’s put them altogether so that we can understand the different responses in the face of stress.  Fight, flight or freeze is a set of stress response arising in natural body reactions to perceived threats. It’s a survival response that has been programmed since the days of our ancestors when there was real danger posed by dangerous animals. These days, the threats that we face are largely psychological. However, the body continues to respond in the same manner as if there ..read more

Could you be gaslighting yourself and not know it?  Apparently, the concept of gaslighting came from an old movie. In the show, the wife gradually feels disoriented after her husband turns the gaslights down slightly lower each night. When she notices the shift in lights, he would negate her observations by saying that it is all in her head. He’d also do things, such as hiding items and insisting that she lost them. His tactics are aimed at causing her to lose sanity.  While gaslighting appears to be an external psychological tactic, what’s troubling is that we can also be doing this ..read more

Would like to build emotional mastery? Interested to boost your emotional well-being, so that you can be a lot more resilient in the face of difficulties?  For a start, find out how emotional mastery can be attained through emotional labeling and differentiation of feelings. For those of us who have repressed our feelings for a long time, emotional labeling and differentiation can be a difficult thing to do. Emotional labeling refers to identifying our emotions and emotional differentiation refers to naming our emotions with specificity and granularity. Both can be difficult to do beca ..read more

Do you often wish that you had received adequate love, guidance, support from your mum or dad when you were young? It could be that you’re now realising that part of the challenging issues you have today are related to your childhood. Perhaps you have experienced emotional neglect in the past. You find yourself still longing for love and assurance even today. This is not to blame any of your parents. After all, they parented you in the only way they knew how. They could have been brought up in the same or similar ways themselves. Yet, what remains is that your younger self or inner child still ..read more

Emotional bullying is when a person tries to get what he or she wants by making another feel afraid, small and helpless. It can happen in a children’s playground. Or it can happen in adult relationships. These days, emotional bullying can also take place online.  Emotional bullying brings about negative effects. If it is made repeatedly, the victim’s mental health can decline. Victims end up with depression, anxiety, shame, guilt and fear, and have difficulties showing up fully at work or in their business. Emotional wounds can create leaks in attracting money and abundance too. Fortunate ..read more