Over the last few months, I've gone on a few dates. Guy who bragged about how his dog is a "chick magnet" Guy who had really long fingernails I couldn't help but stare at Guy who may have been more into men than women Guy who had interesting things to talk about I found myself thinking, if guy number one didn't brag about his dog being a "chick magnet," would have I wanted to see him again? No. If guy number two had shorter fingernails, would I have wanted to see him again? No. If I had thought guy number three was more into women, would I have wanted to see him again? No. So by thinking pf ..read more

I haven't done much here because I've been working and traveling almost nonstop. I've talked to a few guys here and there. I've also stopped talking to a few guys here and there when they say things like, "What u du for job?" Dating and relationships have been placed on the back burner. It's a new year and there will be some changes here. I used to let all comments get published. Going forward, this will not happen. Without getting into great detail, I will say I've received several threats to my safety ..read more

Thanksgiving is this Thursday and I'm sure we all have things we should be grateful for; we just need to realize what. So, even if nothing comes of it, I'm grateful for the guy I run into coming into my life.  I thought I was very over Ex Guy, but he was still able to annoy me by contacting me.  Although my annoyance was at a very low level, it was still present.  I think that's a sure sign that I wasn't as over Ex Guy as I thought I was. After a variety of things like a long vacation and meeting two guys I have chemistry with (including the guy I ran into), I can honestly say ..read more

I still hear from the Ex Guy and I'm still not really talking about it because there's nothing to talk about.  I've asked myself a new question though.  Even if he did fix whatever needed to be fixed, would I even want him?  I don't think so.  The good times were so good and the bad times were so bad. My focus has not been on dating for the last month.  I've been working on trip planning.  I am going on a long vacation this summer.  We'll visit three countries (at minimum) in Europe.  I think I usually take a vacation from dating over the summer?  ..read more

A few of my guy friends have gotten engaged recently.  I find myself thing, no thanks, not yet.  I'm not at that place.  Maybe if I met the right guy, I'd be at that place?  I'm not looking for the right guy right now though.  I'm not looking for any guy.  I feel like there are a lot of things I need to take care of before I find the right guy.  For example, more travels with girlfriends I know I'll have a blast with ..read more

I was in Paris over the weekend with two girlfriends.  Well, a girlfriend and her friend.  I'm never traveling with her friend again.  Paris was beautiful and cold.  It was my first time there.  Most of my past big trips have been with men I've dated, guy friends, male family members; and, they've taken charge of the planning, transportation, dining, et al. From this trip, all three of us learned that we don't need a guy to go on a big trip.  We can get around on our own just fine.  I had much more fun traveling with this girlfriend than any guy I've dated ..read more

Instead of thinking about men, dating, and relationships, I've been putting my energy into asking myself some questions. If I didn't have to work for money and could do anything I want, what would it be and why?   If I could live anywhere in the world, where would I live and why?   If I could visit anywhere in the world, where would I go an why? I think these are good soul searching questions for anyone who feels a little bored, confused, or just blah. I'm sprucing up my apartment while I work on these questions.  I also bought new luggage so I have one less excuse ..read more

I've been on a break from men and dating.  I still check my various apps and sites about once a week, but my heart's not in it.  I think there's a lot I want to see and do before I meet someone. I was talking to a girlfriend, she one of those girls who is almost never single.  She's also on a break from men and dating.  She's putting all her energy into finishing school and working a lot to get a new car.  Another girlfriend of mine has been divorced for about a year, she's on a break from men too.  She's focusing on getting a group of us together every month for ..read more

I haven't heard from that guy that I went out with a couple weeks ago and that's fine.  From the date, I got the sense that he was too fresh off his divorce, which was finalized not too long ago.  Also, his followup texts rubbed me the wrong way.  Instead of suggesting we go out to dinner again, a movie, a hike, et al, he kept suggesting activities that would require a plane.  That seemed odd to me.  We just met and he was talking about trips to Europe and Asia with the closest destination being Mexico.  Sorta made me think he was just trying to get laid if he wa ..read more

It's 2017 and I'm not supposed to be talking about the ex guy.  I will for a minute because I'd like to share what he's doing wrong.  He's been asking mutual friends to talk to me on his behalf.  That seems incredibly immature.  He knows what went wrong between us.  Instead of trying to fix the things that needed to be fixed (not that I think those things can be fixed), he's begging mutual friends to get involved.  When mutual friends bring up his name, I change the topic. Like one of my resolutions for 2017, I'm not taking any guy seriously unless he gives me a ..read more