Hey. So I have two wonderful dads, my biological dad didn't know he was gay when he had me, and my biological mother didn't have much interest in me. My biological dad and my other dad were together before I could speak, my birth mother out of the question. I was raised AMAZINGLY and have never really felt the need to reach out to my birth mother, as she may as well have been a surrogate (though I would speak to her if she reached out to me). Recently daddy and dad (/dad 1 and dad 2, like thing 1 and thing 2) have decided they want to adopt. They just moved into a MASSIVE house and know they ..read more

How can I find my half sister I never met before? My father won't give me any information I only know her first name unsure how to spell it and what city and state she was born and around what year it may have been I know the mother went to prison for awhile and she was taken by my father and step monster but step monster didn't want the child of infidelity in her house so my father put her in placement like foster care or something like that. My younger brother died in 2001 that is when I was told about my baby sister and shown a photo so by then she may have been around 5 years old I was 19 ..read more

Hey there! My husband (29M) and I (29F) are starting the process of adopting a child or pair of siblings at least older than four years old. The hope is to have an open adoption with contact with the birth family, if possible, safe, and wanted by the kids. I've been searching for adoptees' perspectives around the ages of 4-14, but it's hard to find some of the information I've been curious about. Here are the main questions: Were you (and your sibling) able to say yes or no to the family that adopted you? Or how do you ensure you have your child(s)' consent to be part of your family? I read ..read more

Hey friends, We often get questions that have been asked over and over on this sub, and one way to get the answer you want is simply to search. Reddit's search function is notoriously sub par, though. However, there are some ways to make it better. Apologies for the length and all the code--- it's useful for you to know, if you wanna do this. https://www.reddit.com/wiki/search#wiki_manual_filtering I will preface that I usually do my own searches on old reddit, on desktop https://old.reddit.com/r/Adoption ymmv, but please share your own tips for other versions / platforms. . Starting from the ..read more

Hi, my wife and I are in the process of getting to know a 9 year old little girl. Our first meeting was at a library, our second was at a playground, and the ball is now in our court for what to do for the third meeting. She expressed interest in frisbee once (or maybe has done disc golf before, she wasn't super clear in the moment), and there's a disc golf course nearby so that's one thing I've thought of. I thought of mini golf too, but I don't want it to be too fun you know? We're trying to get to know the girl, after all, not amuse her. (This is in the United States. The weather should be ..read more

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If a family doesn't want their kid anymore and another adult does, is it as simple as in the movie Matilda where the biological parents sign "adoption papers" to transfer her over to a more suitable family and go along their merry way never to see each other again? submitted by /u/taurar [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

I’ve wanted to adopt since I was a child, my husband and I are seriously considering doing so in the near future. This sub gives me pause. I have read many stories on here that make it sound like a worthless pursuit that does more harm than good. I just want to provide a loving and safe home for a child & college tuition so they can become who they want to be. Why do some people think adoption is so bad and worse than just leaving kids in the system? I understand there are nuances and complexities to this, but I always thought that adoption was a net positive. Tell me your thoughts. subm ..read more

Today's my birthday and it's always slightly emotional because I do wonder if my mom thinks of me. It seems silly but it's been like 25 years, she left me in the hospital. Does my dad even know I exist and if so does he realize today is my birthday? submitted by /u/renata112 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Hi, I'm fourteen and pregnant with my daughter. She's due in three weeks. Currently dealing with fears of her being taken by CPS and what not, but decided I'd just ask here to see if my opinion could be swayed or something. I dunno. I debated putting her up for adoption for a few months but read up on adoption trauma for me and her and decided against it, but now I'm concerned with the effects being raised by a teen. I'm not super concerned with how it will effect me - I just want whatever is best for her. I might keep her regardless because I'm so in love with her, and you know, we've picked ..read more