As the parent who is primarily responsible for managing the household and homeschooling full time, finding quick and easy ways to earn a little extra cash can make a big difference. In this Topcashback review, I'll show you how easily I'm able to add a few dollars back into our bank account just by doing […] The post Topcashback Review: How I Supplement Income as a Busy SAHM appeared first on Imperfect Homemaker ..read more

Imagine a woman who deeply loves Jesus and desires more than anything to be a godly wife. Her husband makes a grand appearance of being a godly man; however, behind closed doors he is domineering and does not display the loving attributes of patience, kindness, etc. He demands her to serve him yet never serves […] The post Domestic Violence Prevalence in the Church: Facts Every Christian Should Know appeared first on Imperfect Homemaker ..read more

I remember that day so clearly. I was cleaning the kitchen, and I was in no-nonsense, let’s-get-this-done mode. My plans were quickly derailed, though, when someone bumped into the 5-year-old. As soon as I heard it I thought, “Oh no, here we go.” This particular child was very sensitive, and I knew from past experience that getting bumped would be a huge deal to them. I was formulating how I would quickly shut down their cries so I wouldn’t have to stop cleaning. It would have sounded something like, “You’re fine. You’re not hurt. We're not going to cry about this.” I wouldn’t have taken tim ..read more

Normally this time of year I start seeing lots of posts reminding people that they can have a simple Christmas – that they can just relax and quit stressing out about doing all the Christmas-y things. . And yet this year I’ve seen a new conversation pop up – there are those who feel that there’s not just been permission granted to celebrate with simplicity, but that there’s been actual glorification of it. Those who enjoy “doing all the things” are left feeling as if they’re doing something wrong by NOT simplifying their celebration. . The solution I saw offered to both of those approaches was ..read more

One of the common phrases I hear women saying who are coming out of an abusive marriage is, “I had no voice in my marriage.” What might that look like for a woman not to have a voice in her marriage?   -If she tries to voice her feelings about something or give input into a decision, she might be mocked for it. -Her husband might tell her he doesn’t like her attitude or that her tone of voice is disrespectful. -Her husband might twist her words to mean things she didn’t say and then blame her for it. -Her husband might completely ignore her. Ultimately, the message being sent to her is ..read more

Since I have turned this platform further towards shining a light onto domestic abuse in the church, I want to address a concern that some of my readers may have. This concern is regarding whether speaking about abuse in the church in an online format is appropriate as it may present a poor impression to unbelievers or turn them away from Jesus. My response to that concern will be two-fold. First, although I am sharing these things in an online context, my audience is Christians. I am writing to the members of the body of Christ, pleading with my brothers and sisters not to look away from the ..read more

On Sunday, I posted on Instagram about women who find themselves in the bathroom stall at church, crying because their abusive husband is smiling, chatting, and fitting right in with all the men in the lobby. But she knows the truth. She knows that the person he pretends to be at church is not the same person he is at home. A response I received was, “Why doesn’t she go to the church leadership for help?” While that might seem an obvious solution, it’s unfortunately not usually that simple. I reached out to a group of abuse survivors and asked them to share their answers to the question, “Why ..read more

I have not written any new posts here for quite a while. The reason for that is that I am not the same person who started this blog over a decade ago. I knew this was likely to happen, that I would grow and change and view certain things differently, and that I’d likely disagree with some of the things I wrote in the past. I have always tried to write from that perspective – that I’m not an expert who is here to share unchanging truth with my readers, but that I’m just a woman who is continually in the process of learning. Everything I’ve written in the past has been a milestone of where I’ve ..read more

“How to be a Good Wife” is a question I sometimes receive here, and it's a question I see come up frequently around the internet. Generally I explore that question one-on-one with the person at the other end of my inbox. I find out more about why they're asking, and we have a conversation about it that is relevant to the details of their specific situation. But for those who are searching publicly available books and articles to find answers to their pressing question about how to be a good wife, I want to address some of the common themes that I see regarding this question. Basically, I have ..read more

I was asked recently whether Swagbucks was a legitimate way for stay-at-home wives and moms to earn money. My answer at the time was “Nah. It's not really worth the time.” It's not that the site itself isn't legit (it totally is – I've had an account for years and received any payouts I've requested) I just didn't feel like most people would earn enough to make it worth the time spent. Most of what I had earned was from referral credits I accumulated when I owned a deal blog years ago, and I didn't think it was fair to give the impression that the general public would earn as much as I had. We ..read more