During my junior year of college, I became obsessed with going to the gym. Maybe that sounds understandable because it’s good to prioritize your health. The feeling of completing a workout is so satisfying, right? Well, the problem was that all I wanted to do was fit into a dress. I set a goal weight for myself and thought: “If I can reach this goal weight, I’ll fit into that dress. And because I fit into that dress, every little problem in my life will disappear. I will finally feel good about myself.” I committed to that goal wholeheartedly, and eventually, I fit into the dress. But then I h ..read more

As I was taking a walk one morning, it struck me how quickly time is passing, yet I feel as though I have nothing to show for it. I found myself thinking I should have accomplished more since half of the year has already passed. But considering that my almost eight-year relationship ended in January and my entire life has been in a state of flux since then, why am I even worrying about what I have or have not accomplished? Everything has changed and will continue to change, yet I still feel the pressure to have accomplished something; to have filled the days, weeks, and months with more “meani ..read more

*This post contains affiliate links. Ever since reading David Allen’s Getting Things Done, I’ve been repeating this motto: “Your head is not for storing information.” As someone who spends too much time in my head, this quote felt like a permission slip to let my brain breathe momentarily. Do you mean to say that I can hit pause on those ideas, tasks, and (let’s be honest) worries that are cycling through my head with nowhere to go? Well, of course, that’s easier said than done. Where will I keep my random thoughts and ideas if my head isn’t for storing information? Enter the inbox system. I ..read more

In 2021, the “That Girl” trend took the internet by storm. “That Girl” is someone who gets up early, meditates, drinks a smoothie, journals, works out, eats healthy food, and takes her vitamins all before 8 a.m. The craze has died down now, but there’s still a lot of advice out there telling you to cram as many ‘good’ habits as you can into your mornings. I know I’ve gotten sucked into Pinterest lists about the perfect morning routine and thought to myself ‘If only I follow that list, my life will be so much better’. In fact, there’s been many a time I’ve written an ambitious list of things at ..read more

Do you feel like everyone else has their lives figured out while you’re still unsure of your purpose and direction? When I was twenty, I thought thirty-something me would have all my ducks in a row and every little detail of my life in order. Instead, my thirties are teaching me that unexpected twists and turns are all part of the journey. Perhaps it’s good that things are never set in stone because it means we’re always evolving and learning more about ourselves as the years go by. But that doesn’t mean the feelings of uncertainty and confusion get any easier to deal with. Why we feel uncerta ..read more

How often do you avoid the things you want to do? Perhaps it’s a big life goal that feels overwhelming, or maybe it’s a smaller daily habit that makes you feel better. We all know how easy it is to avoid the things we don’t want to do, but why do we also put off the things we actually want to do? For the past few years, that thing for me was writing this blog. I’d fallen off the bandwagon before the pandemic, and I couldn’t seem to get back into the rhythm of writing. I struggled with thoughts like: If this is as important to me as I tell myself it is, why can’t I find the motivation to do it ..read more

A few years ago, I wrote a post encouraging people to stop searching for answers. The topic came from my own experience of seeking out ideas and solutions from other people whenever I felt stuck in life. After all, it’s natural to want to see how other people have navigated difficult situations. But this would lead me to obsessively search for answers, trying to find the right one that would somehow fix everything in my life. What I learned through a lot of trial and error is that the answers would often come to me when I stopped seeking. When I took the time to slow down and listen to the ans ..read more

Back in August, I was feeling really stuck with where I was at in life. It felt as if I was moving through wet cement, trying to get somewhere but I wasn’t quite sure where. So, as one does late at night, I decided to search on YouTube for the phrase ‘how to transform your life.’ I knew I needed some form of change, but I wasn’t sure what. The younger me would have thought I needed to do something drastic: move across the country, chop my hair off, get a new job, or just generally stir things up. The slightly wiser, current-day version of me realized that perhaps I could see how other people h ..read more

Hi, friend. It’s been such a long time since I’ve published anything on this blog. A good nine months to be exact. My last post was about easing into 2023, and I guess I took that concept pretty literally. It may seem as though I’ve disappeared from the internet altogether. I haven’t shared much on the blog, my newsletter, or Instagram for a very long time. There are so many reasons why I haven’t, yet it wasn’t as if there was a defining moment or specific event in my life that caused me to take a step back. It was more like an accumulation of little things that built up over time. The more I ..read more

Last Updated on January 4, 2023 Have new years resolutions ever really worked? I haven’t set new years resolutions in years, perhaps because one overarching goal for the year feels close-minded to me. How can I possibly predict that I’ll still want that one goal in even a few months’ time? My ever-changing mind simply says, “that’s a good joke.” Though I do believe in the power of goal setting (as I’ve written about many times before), I’ve been resistant to jumping into it right away this year. Usually, I’d map out everything I’d like to accomplish, but I’ve been feeling the urge to take thin ..read more