AND THE UNICORN JUMPED OVER THE MOON, 2023: 20"X 24" acrylics, glitter, hot glue, foam, ribbons, balloons & found objects on canvas and cardboard The post AND THE UNICORN JUMPED OVER THE MOON first appeared on Adoption & Birth Mothers ..read more

“I’m down because two months ago my wife and I decided that our marriage was over. Trying to plan the split.. and on top of that, a few weeks ago, like it was some kind of magic at work, I met a unicorn., Got to spend some time with her this weekend and now it’s back to the real world.” I read these words, written by my husband, on September... The post AND THE UNICORN JUMPED OVER THE MOON, 2023: 20″X 24″ acrylics, glitter, hot glue, foam, ribbons, balloons & found objects on canvas and cardboard first appeared on Adoption & Birth Mothers ..read more

TRIGGER WARNING: DV simulation, not a simulation but a four minute peek into my marriage. Yikes! The post July 12, 2019 first appeared on Adoption & Birth Mothers ..read more

SHARP WAVES, 2020: black mica seashells, acrylic paint and electric on canvas. | Representative of the difficulties and weight of grief and loss. The post SHARP WAVES, 2020: 5″ x 14″black mica seashells, acrylic paint, wood frame and electric on canvas. first appeared on Adoption & Birth Mothers ..read more

THERE WAS A CANCER. 2023: Acrylic, found objects, hot glue, washi tape, glitter on canvas His mental health was indeed a cancer. The post THERE WAS A CANCER first appeared on Adoption & Birth Mothers ..read more

32 years and 300 days AFTER I signed the piece of paper that would ultimately seal his original birth certificates from our eyes forever seemed like a good time to freshen up around here get moving on this damn legislation!THIRTEEN WORDS are all that must be removed from current Massachusetts law in order for my first born to have his civil rights restored. I let them take his rights away,... The post Happy Birthday! first appeared on Adoption & Birth Mothers ..read more

"You know how we can improve the lives of birth parents in International Adoptions? Stop taking their children across the ocean to the United States. Let me make this statement very clear: On behalf of birth parents around the world, adoption hurts us. Relinquishment hurts us. Being separated from our children hurts us." The post The Department of State's International Adoption Symposium first appeared on Adoption & Birth Mothers ..read more

By Susie Another milestone in my reunion with my firstborn happened last weekend. (It only took 8 years and 8 months!) For the first time ever, all of my children AND (almost) all of my grandchildren were together! It was the first time Christopher’s two children met their aunt, uncles, and cousins. It was an amazing weekend, to say the least. I am so thankful that all three of my... The post Another Milestone ~ 8 years and 8 months in the making! first appeared on Adoption & Birth Mothers ..read more

I wrote this some time ago as a submission to some contest some place. I have been holding on to it until today. It was ten years ago today that this happened. Last Hours of Cold She couldn’t find a freaking parking space to save her life. After all the meticulous planning and her careful timeline, she was going to be late because she couldn’t find any  visitor or public... The post Reunion Flashback first appeared on Adoption & Birth Mothers ..read more

Yes, it is complex being a birth mother. This one act involves a duality of polar opposites. How can I be a victim of an industry, yet I made a choice? How can I be selfless and selfish at the same time? How I can I be a survivor, yet completely broken? How can I do the unthinkable, and then manage to carry on? How could I have been so weak as to lose my child, to not fight for him, and then so strong as to breath into another day? The post Between the Extremes; Complexity of a Birth Mother first appeared on Adoption & Birth Mothers ..read more