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Save The Marriage Blog
10h ago
I wish this only happened every now and then. Imagine, for a second, that someone is working on saving their marriage. In this case, they have chosen to use my System. And they are making progress! (Yay!) Then… they decide to do something else… add something on… try to “spice up” their approach. And suddenly ..read more
Save The Marriage Blog
6d ago
One more argument. One more struggle. They sat on my couch, facing each other down as opponents in some contest to… win… well, to be honest, I don’t know what they were trying to win. Because they were not winning at marriage! I stopped them, looked at them and said, “You do know you are ..read more
Save The Marriage Blog
2w ago
Fears. They can certainly derail us humans! But what about relationship fears? Just those basic fears and insecurities that we all carry with us in relationships? Yep, we all have them. 2 basic fears. And those 2 fears? They pull against each other. One can trigger the other in couples. We all have both, but ..read more
Save The Marriage Blog
3w ago
Games should be fun. But the games we are talking about today are NOT fun. These are patterns of interaction and communication. The design is to get a need met. But behind it is a dysfunction. It may be a lack of clarity in what someone wants or expects. It may be an unwillingness to ..read more
Save The Marriage Blog
3w ago
Is your marriage crisis marked by heated arguments or cold distance? Hot or cold? Are they really that different? Or is it all a part of the same process? And how does it affect your attempts to save your marriage? During back-to-back coaching sessions with two couples, I had a case of each. In the ..read more
Save The Marriage Blog
1M ago
Maybe your spouse has been saying, “This is ALL YOUR FAULT!” Or maybe it is just you… wondering… torturing yourself… about whether this marriage crisis is your fault. Are you the problem? Let me reassure you that you are not the first person to wonder that. People search about that on my blog. People write ..read more
Save The Marriage Blog
1M ago
Miranda asked me, “What do I do? My spouse is hopeless that we can save our marriage. I’m losing hope, too.” A while back, I did a training for members of my VIP Program, noting three barriers in the way of a spouse working on the marriage… along with how to respond. One of those ..read more
Save The Marriage Blog
2M ago
When life is hard, Holidays can feel heavy. When there is a marriage crisis, it can be tough to muster the energy to even move forward — especially when all the commercials and movies push the “merry and bright” of a mythic holiday. And here we are, on the cusp of the Holiday season! It ..read more
Save The Marriage Blog
2M ago
“In our very first session, our therapist told me that we were divorcing and I need to accept it,” Claire wrote. I invited people to submit questions. And Claire did. (You can, too, by EMAILING HERE.) Here is what happened: Claire wanted to save her marriage. Her husband thought it was over. Claire convinced him ..read more
Save The Marriage Blog
2M ago
I know. It’s tempting. Your marriage is having troubles and you want to talk about it. Maybe your friends would be good to tell. Or maybe your family can listen. Or perhaps you should contact your in-laws to “talk some sense” into your spouse. Don’t. Stop. Think again before you share. Those words that feel ..read more