Many INFJ personality types describe themselves as a “lone wolf,” which means their preference is to keep an extremely small circle of friends, and not ask for help unless it’s absolutely necessary. This results in most INFJ personality types being not only self-sufficient, but also hyper-independent, and relying on this quality of hyper-independence to get them through life. Being a lone wolf can be positive for INFJ personality types, as they tend to be very self-directed in the workplace and they can go for long periods of time on their own, immersed in their own projects, without needing ..read more

Most INFJ personality types struggle with feeling selfish all the time. It’s most often triggered when we think about expressing a preference, or getting help with meeting an important need. When we realize we have the preference or need, then immediately we have the thought right after that we are somehow being selfish. The thought that we are selfish then triggers guilt and shame and we go into avoidance about dealing with that preference or need. Expressing preferences and meeting needs is so hard for INFJ personality types because we usually were not taught how to do this in childhood, an ..read more

My new book, Writing on the Intuitive Side of the Brain, just released today and I’m so excited about it! I’ve been working on this book for a few years, and it’s based on my most popular classes and video courses about intuitive writing. I wrote this book with INFJ and INFP writers specifically in mind. It’s got lots of good nuggets of information on: Balancing masculine and feminine energy in your creative practice Dealing with anxiety in the writing process Archetype work with characters Working with characters with trauma Memoir writing as a healing process Intuitive writing in nonfiction ..read more

INFJ personality types tend to struggle with perfectionism, especially INFJ writers. When we struggle with perfectionism, we want to do everything perfectly, not only to satisfy our own inner critic but also to prevent others from judging us negatively. The fear of negative judgment from others can affect our entire life. Why is this such a problem for some of us? Because it’s not just a worry, it’s an addiction to approval. This affects our writing, our creativity, and our entire lives. When we suffer from perfectionism, we overthink everything we do and say, and we constantly worry about th ..read more

Perfectionism is one of the biggest problems that writers struggle with on a regular basis. And most writers tend to blame themselves for this problem. We often see perfectionism as a character flaw, or a bad habit that we need to conquer. But what most writers don’t know is that perfectionism is neither of these things. When you suffer from perfectionism at a deep level, what you’re really struggling with is anxiety, and much of the time, that anxiety is out of your control. It is not something to be conquered or battled. It is something to be healed. That’s why it doesn’t work when we treat ..read more

Most memoir writers worry about how their book will be received, but for those writers who are writing about controversial themes, they have an even bigger worry than what other people will think, and that’s whether or not anyone will even believe them. When memoirs feature controversial themes such as narcissistic abuse, abuse by a parent, relationships that revolve around mind games, and/or control and manipulation, many writers feel they won’t be believed because they weren’t believed when it was happening to them in real life. Writers who are writing this type of memoir may feel that it’s ..read more

All memoir writing can be difficult for writers, and bring up a lot of fear, especially when it comes to sharing it with other people. However, one type of memoir is the hardest type of memoir to write, and that is the form of memoir known as “dark memoir.” Dark memoir is a common sub-genre within the category of memoir, but most writers who are writing it don’t know that’s what they’re writing. Dark memoir is a memoir that contains taboo topics and/or controversial material. Dark memoir contains elements and themes such as narcissistic abuse, addiction, and usually includes details about the ..read more

I just opened up registration for my new class! You can find everything you need to know (and also sign up) here: INTUITIVE CREATIVITY And I created a short video to give you an overview of this class and what it’s all about: If you have any questions at all, feel free to contact me here. I hope I see you in this class! Lauren Sapala is the author of The INFJ Writer, The INFJ Revolution, and the creator of Energy and Intuition for INFJs, an online course for INFJs on intuition, relationships, creativity, and more. She is also currently offering a free copy of her book Firefly ..read more

INFJ personality types and INFP personality types tend to judge themselves harshly for not sticking with projects and not finishing things. They blame themselves for a “lack of focus.” But what most INFJs and INFPs don’t know is that they are not the problem, and what they call a “lack of focus” is really a sign of a gifted neurodivergent mind. “Lack of focus” is one of the most commonly reported problems from INFJ personality types and INFP personality types when it comes to finishing creative projects. Many INFJs and INFPs will say: “I have shiny object syndrome.” “I get so distracted.” “I ..read more

INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are two of the most highly creative types out of all the MBTI types. However, they are also the two types that suffer from the most self-doubt about their creativity. There is one very good reason INFJ personality types and INFP personality types struggle so much with self-doubt in this area, and that’s because no one understands INFJ and INFP creativity. The truth is that INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are highly creative. Both types have no trouble coming up with new ideas, asking a lot of questions, wondering “why” and “w ..read more