Dating an avoidant man is like trying to befriend a traumatized, aggressive stray dog.  And that’s at its worst.  Dating an avoidant man at its best is like chasing after a leprechaun – alluring, but ... Read more ..read more

Dismissive avoidants are so mean because they need to push you away in order to survive, literally and metaphorically.  This pattern is something they have been going to reliably since infancy, and they’re likely not about to stop it soon.  Pushing you away is their survival mechanism.  This act of pushing you away is what feels cruel to you. Pushing someone away manifests in different kinds of behaviors, many of which seem cruel to you.  Just for a minute, think about how brutal it is for an infant to cry for hours and not have anybody come to them.  Consider that thi ..read more

The best time to say I love you is when enough attraction and connection has been built up in the relationship that you both know the feeling of love is mutual (so that there is no risk assumed by the first person saying it.)  However, love can be uncertain and chaotic even at the best of times, so it doesn’t always happen the way we wish or at the optimal time. Add to that the fact that many of us are anxious, impatient and impulsive and you could have a recipe for disaster. So it’s a good thing to slow things down in your own mind and body, take a deep breath, and ask yourself: “If I w ..read more

According to some experts and relationship coaches, ignoring a guy can work to get his attention. It has the effect of triggering curiosity, making him lean forward and pursue you. The problem is that the benefits of ignoring a guy only work if you’re approaching dating for short-term results with a view to perpetuate a power struggle (or to be chased.)  Let’s talk about these benefits and the costs of ignoring a guy, and whether you should use this strategy to bring him back or get his attention.  Related reading: 12 Reasons Guys Act Interested Then Back Off + What To Do. Things To ..read more

She sat there, all alone on the curb, crying. She just had it. She had just lost someone dear to her, and now she had nobody. Nobody to even call her and ask how she is. And what’s worse is that she didn’t know what to do about it. She had a big family. A few people whom she thought were her friends. And yet nobody was there for her. She wanted to commit suicide, sometimes. It was all just too hard. She had friends, but they didn’t feel like real friends. Her family wasn’t nice to her, and her last relationship broke up, even though she loved the guy. And when they broke up, people seemed to ..read more

There are just some things you should never tolerate in a relationship. No matter what. However, the question is how do you know exactly what not to tolerate in a relationship with a man? After all, human relationships are not simple, they can be complicated! Here’s what I mean: Whilst some things might initially look like “unacceptable boyfriend behaviour”, and come under the category of relationship red flags, they also may not be unacceptable behaviour. In other words, two guys could present with the same behavior, yet have totally different intent behind that behavior. (And the more traum ..read more

How to be a good girlfriend? The way to be a good girlfriend is to first understand the concept of value. What is value? What is value to you and what is value to your boyfriend or your man? The answers can be complex and multi-dimensional, however as long as you focus on the concept of value, it will take you a long way. Always remember this… If you understand how to be a woman of value to men, then you’ll know how to be a good girlfriend. In this article, we will cover the 19 ways of a high value and feminine girlfriend. How To Be A Good Girlfriend: Embrace Your Feminine Energy When I was 1 ..read more

Let’s look at some women’s rules for relationships. If you don’t have a set of rules that you follow in your relationship with a man, it’s going to be very easy for that relationship to start to deteriorate or even end. (…And the thing is, you may not even realize things are in decline.) Why is this? Because we all get complacent at some point. We are all creatures of habit and we will take things for granted if we get comfortable. You might even find yourself becoming a victim to circumstances that are completely outside your control, causing a whirlwind of emotional turmoil that may even imm ..read more

There’s no denying it; the masculine energy is intense. In fact, masculine energy is sometimes scary, from a woman’s perspective. Of course, I won’t neglect to acknowledge that many modern women won’t relate to this notion. Some may not think masculine energy can be intense or even scary at times. Whilst feminism has done some great things for us, the obsession with women being just as capable as men comes with its costs. Encouraging women to focus firstly on being high achievers and dominant in their careers has also made women quite domineering with a tendency to castrate men with a single l ..read more

If you’re looking for the signs of a masculine man and don’t want to read the story, just skip straight to the signs below. OMG, OK, so listen to this. There I was… on a cold winter night in the dodgy end of town. I wouldn’t come to this part of town even during the day, let alone at night, but anyway. I was there with my husband and two of his guy friends. We were all in our twenties back then, so we were youngish. David had gotten some free tickets to some local kickboxing and MMA fights, and I had never watched fights live before, so I thought I would tag along. I had no idea what to expect ..read more